Challenging the Stereotypes #IAmCapable

I want to highlight today such a case among all my readers about a pretty young girl who used to live in my neighbourhood and had to face so many issues related to her personal choice of dressing and appearance. I call this as real intolerance in all respect that even after so many years of independence, we have such instances in our country but at the same time that we have strong and bold people who are capable and strong enough to keep taking their chances and do answer their critics with their self confidence and belief.

My friend faced a lot of criticism while living in the society as young people would indulge in eve teasing and would raise their eyebrows when she used to go to college. People would pass on comments about her looks and western clothes. She felt really uncomfortable and would often feel awkward about it as it was not her mistake. Then her family members were protective too and would often force her to cover up her body from head to toe. At some point of time, it was difficult for her to move out of the house in the evening and felt threatened. She did not have any answer to this situation until it was her army uncle who told her to be straight forward and join the Kick boxing classes. Her two months hard core training made difference to herself belief. She kicked one of the adult in the society when he was making comments and this gave confidence to other girls in the society. I think it was her strong training that she was able to cope with such a situation. There is nothing better than the feeling of looking into the mirror with the proud feeling for her and she was able to stand up and answer those uneducated people without any guilt and confidence.

In the end, I would summarize by saying that I wish for woman empowerment and security. I would urge everyone to rise against all kinds of injustice and unfairness against women in all forms. No matter what is the situation in life, we should always cheer up you and never feel low in life. If you see anything happening nearby then does raise your voice and take the step to support women in all forms. God has given you just one life & it’s up to us how you spend it. We should spend entire life with dignity and living without under tension or stress.

You must also take a look at some of the startling figures that the Nihar Naturals #IAmCapable survey conducted by Nielsen India reveals:

a. 69% of men agree that their judgement of women is based on their looks.
b. 64% of women agree that the judgments passed on them have affected their ability to reach their true potential.
c. 70%of women agree that majority of judgments on women are from family members or friends rather than strangers.
d. 72% of women agree that working women face more judgments on their looks or their clothes than housewives.

“I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.”

Living with Brave Attitude

This post is about my childhood friend Nitika about her life as a village girl and how she overcame over it and won the hearts of everyone in the society. Her long journey of life with such a smooth ride could not have been possible without her family. It could have taken a different turn if her family was not there with her at different phases of my life cycle. She was the only girl child in the family and the best part was that they never discriminated me from other family members. The credit goes to them for supporting her to the fullest and accompanying me to face the challenges of life with full confidence.

I know her for many years and her story is quite different from other girls in the society. It was not easy for her to challenge against all the odds which she had faced before coming to the city. She told me that people had different thoughts and people in her village would often taunt her and asked her to cover her face and often talk to my family to avoid sending me to college for further studies. They also pointed out about her wearing jeans and would ask her to do household work. But she owe to her family who had faith in her and gave me a chance to pursue further studies.

She did not have a good start in the college and people would often talk about appearance. She would cry a lot when people would criticize her but it was her brother who told her to hold nerves and believe in god and concentrate on studies. At times, he would accompany her and give her directions to improve personality which really helped her to get more confidence and calm herself. Finally she got success as people started to accept her and her success is getting a good job due to her personality and hard work.

You should also take a look at some of the startling figures that the Nihar Naturals #IAmCapable survey conducted by Nielsen India reveals:

a. 69% of men agree that their judgement of women is based on their looks.
b. 64% of women agree that the judgments passed on them have affected their ability to reach their true potential.
c. 70%of women agree that majority of judgments on women are from family members or friends rather than strangers.
d. 72% of women agree that working women face more judgments on their looks or their clothes than housewives.

I would like to suggest all women who often feel alone in such cases and so you must be brave and raise your voice and ignore such people. You will definitely feel much better and live a better life. Further you must talk to people who are your well wishers and can provide the support to move out of such situation and giving you confidence to be stronger at all times.I have discussed this story to motivate and encourage people to live their life and stay away from people who try to impose their life and decisions on you.I suggest you to stay alive and live your life to your fullest.

“I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.”

Date with Snake

I cherish every small adventurous moment spent with my family and friends. I am very adventurous person & love to try & experience various adventurous sports. I have experienced many of the adventurous sports like deep sea diving, Para sailing, River Rafting. I usually try to take break from my office work and go to such adventure trips so that I can pursue some adventure activities and celebrate freedom in life. Then I want to capture each & very moment in my Life with my hobby of photography.

Adventure for me is all about rising above my fears and being close with nature. I still remember the moment when I had fear of snake before I took this adventure trip with my husband. I used to avoid this weird creature and stay away from it until one day I got a chance to hold a real snake in my hand. We both decided to explore and discover the Singapore tourist attractions and had a good time in the Santosa Island and famous Singapore zoo.

We got the opportunity to see variety of species, mammals, and reptiles and also attend the animal zoo. The zoo authorities organised a special show for tourists which was quite amazing. I really enjoyed the way zoo animals followed the instructions of the zoo keepers. At one point of time, there was a long healthy python crawling and hanging on the neck. I felt very scared and feared seeing the snake and wild thoughts started flowing in my mind. I could not move from my seat at all and the python movements were such as if it is looking for the opportunity and may attack the zoo keeper at any point of time. The lady sitting next to me was quite brave and volunteered her ten years old child to hold the python. For me, it was scary and I asked her about if she and her child had no fear of snakes. She smiled at me and told that pythons do not have teeth and are trained. They will not harm the child.

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Seeing the child holding the python, the zoo keeper announced that if anyone wants to hold it too. I also thought about it for a while and thought that I should rise to this occasion and take this as an opportunity to fight against my fear. I stood up and walked towards the stage. My hands were shaking but zoo keepers told me to be bold and pythons will not harm. Then slowly they put the heavy python in my hand and his body over my neck. I could not believe holding the python without any fear overcoming my fear.Then I asked the zoo keeper to quickly click my picture holding the snake with my mobile so that it remains a memorable memory and my victory over my fear or snake phobia.I feel this moment makes me think of taking more adventure trips in my life.It was really an ultimate experience for me and my husband.

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“This post is a part of #AdventureNme activity at adventuren.com.”